Wedding Burden

Hello!

Normally I wouldn't say anything about how a couple choses to delegate chores when planning a wedding or in their lives afterward but today my friends I must speak out. I chatted with a friend of mine today who is planning her and her fiancé's impending nuptials... completely by herself. Which is fine,some women NEED or like to be in control. This friend however, did not need to be in control and she justified her enormous wedding workload by saying that her soon to be fiance was incapable of completing the tasks because "he doesn't pay attention to the details and I can't trust him."

My question to her was why marry him then? Think to yourself... do you have so little faith in your mate that you cannot trust him with ANYTHING. Do you assume he doesn't want to be part of one of the biggest days of his life?

As a latent feminist I am a bit insulted by all of this. People always say the wedding is for the bride but in my experience the wedding is for the bride to plan. I by no means intend to sound pessimistic about the institution of marriage but I always liked the idea of planning a wedding together as sort of a team project that allowed a couple to work together and compromise. Apparently I have a somewhat rose tinted view of what a wedding is.

So ladies if you are reading this and asking yourself why you are the one toting the pink planner bursting with swatches I encourage you to do something radical (I do not mean dump him and buy a cat.) Talk to your soon to be husband about the work required. In all of the planning I am sure there is something that he will be interested in taking on. And if he is not, remind him that you can't do everything and it would be a shame if you got so busy you forgot to ensure the open bar, or the DJ that has his favorite songs, or if need be, threaten to sit him next to your father, mother, great aunt or any other offending family member (or turned into an absolute bridezilla incapable of being in the same room with him thus making for an unfortunate honeymoon). Remind him that if you both plan the wedding then there will be food he likes, there will be activities he enjoys, and if you work together then the wedding will be FUN (not just perfect) for both of you. And ultimately that is what you want not just the white tent and the peonies dripping over every horizontal surface.

Please let me know if you agree or it is just me?
Alexandra

Options for a Winter Bride

As the leaves change color and the temperature starts to drop (finally!) many of the beautiful strapless and strappy gowns available seem like an impossibility for warm blooded brides and their bridesmaids. So to aid my shivering sisters I have compiled a list of beautiful options to keep you toasty and warm on your big day.

The first option is a traditional Pashmina shawl. Look for shawls that are 100% wool if you are looking for a thicker and warmer option like the ones available here:
http://www.cashmereboutique.com/passhaw100pa.html
They are 3 ply for extra warmth and there are 50 colors available to suit whichever color you may desire

Another great option for a chilly lady is etsy.com. They are a fantastic resource for handmade options that are both pretty and original for the bride looking for a unique wrap up. Here are some pretty options available from etsy:

A velvet shrug: http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=sr_gallery_2&listing_id=15650730

A super chic mink stole: http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=sr_gallery_11&listing_id=12290721

A wool floral shrug: http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=sr_gallery_1&listing_id=13170053

A great faux mink cape: http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=sr_gallery_1&listing_id=16360951

This high necked ruffled jacket would make a chic addition to your ensemble by Amanda Wakeley. She has a number of pretty options for the cool weather bride:

http://www.amandawakeley.com/web/index.html

Pronovias of Barcelona also offers a beautiful winter white blazer that begs for a extravagant pin or rosette to finish your look:
http://www.bridesmagazine.co.uk/find-your-style/?page=15&imageoffset=108&style=winter

So here are some great alternatives to your favorite fleece so you will feel beautiful on your big day despite the cold. If anyone else knows of other warm options please feel free to post a comment to share with our sisters.

Cheers
AZAW

Welcome!

Welcome to Of Weddings and Life After!

My name is Alexandra Wishart and I am a wedding invitation and card designer located in Atlanta, Georgia. I love weddings and working with new couples as they start their lives together. On this journal I will provide advice and ideas for wedding planning and life after as well as products and vendors I find with interesting or new ideas for life and love. I will post my favorite recipes and tricks I pick up along the way so that life and love are less stressful and more enjoyable for everyone.

Coming soon will be a rundown of my favorite dresses from the Spring 2009 bridal collection. Also a list of chic and new ideas for making your wedding eco-friendly!
Cheers
Alex